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As we were getting ready for bed, my little guy (2nd grader) mentioned his bum hurting. When I asked him why it was hurting, he identified the cause was when he stood up in class today and another boy removed his chair so when he sat back down he actually fell on the floor (and hurt his tailbone). What really broke my heart was he naively commented,
“Yea, and other kids were laughing but I really don’t know why.”
What does a mama say? :'(
No he didn’t say anything to the boy and
no he didn’t report it to the teacher.
Did I think the other boy needed to learn a lesson?
Do I think the “other kids” needed a talkin’ to?
--yes, of course.
But the only person I could teach a lesson to at that moment was my boy.
I just said that some kids just don’t make very good choices sometimes.
Hard telling why that boy did what he did.
And some “other kids” just don’t know how to respond appropriately in situations.
We processed through his emotions about how he felt at the moment (without dwelling on them) but to help him identify them and use those emotions to drive his response to future situations..I told him it is completely appropriate you use your strong voice to say, “Hey that makes me mad!” or in a serious manner to reply “That’s not cool man.”
or even express “That really hurt and it makes me sad you did that.”
Will he utilize any of these responses in the future?
----I don’t know.
But I wanted him to feel empowered to respond to any other situations that make him feel sad/mad/embarrassed.
If nothing else, I hope he felt his mamma’s love, even at school the next day (because I sent a cushion for his hard chair and his sore bum)